SOME THOUGHTS
About
HOW TO HELP STUDENTS
From the
Student Counseling Service
...a Department in the Division of Student Affairs
Cain Hall
(979) 845-4427 (8 AM to 5 PM Weekdays)
(979) 845-2700 (HelpLine--Nights and Weekends)
HAS THIS HAPPENED TO YOU IN THE CLASSROOM?
Recognize the Problem:
A slight feeling of dread comes
over you again. The young man has his hand raised and you know what that
means: a long, rambling jumble of words which, for a moment or two, seem to
make sense as a question; but when he's finished you will be standing there
bewildered, looking at him. You have learned better than to ask him to repeat
his question. The repetition takes longer and usually disrupts the class
completely. The other students just stare at him when he gets started; a few
even laugh and make audible comments while he is speaking. The young man seems
untouched by the reactions of his fellow students. He is detached and unaware
of how differently he behaves. A few times he has approached you after class.
Frankly, you feel a little uneasy and transact your business with him quickly,
though you are aware he would have stayed to talk if you had not begun to pick
up your books and notes midway in your conversation with him. Yet, you feel he
needs help, but you feel uncomfortable about what to do or say.
Have you faced the situation of a
student repeatedly asking for special considerations or missing exams, and he
or she tells you about personal or academic problems that are making it
difficult to function academically? What about the student who seems to be
depressed, or makes references about suicide or other personal problems in a
writing assignment you have given? These are only a few examples of situations
where you probably wonder, "What can I do?" The staff of the Student
Counseling Service have some suggestions to help you deal with these types of
situations. Please also remember that staff are available for consultation by
calling 845-4427.
Talk to the Student:
We suggest that you meet with the
student when you have plenty of time and will not be disturbed by others.
Though you are probably not a trained counselor or therapist, you may be the
only person willing to make the time for personal communication with this
student. Of all the professional techniques used by mental health professionals,
there is none more important than knowing how to listen; not just hear but understand
what this student is saying to you. You already have a pretty good idea that
these students are carrying a burden heavier than the other students you know. Their
behavior shows unusual stress, or depression, or confusion, or anxiety. If you
are willing to step out of your role as professor, teacher, or advisor for a
moment and become instead a "learner," you may rather quickly gain
admittance to the world of pain, confusion, or stress in which this student is
living. Your willingness to listen is the cornerstone of a trusting
relationship. Trust may not develop under every circumstance, but if it does,
it will be because you gave that student time and space in your life: you
listened to him without interruption; you listened to her feelings without
judgment; you listened to his thoughts without correcting them; you listened to
her just as she is and not as she "ought" to be.
Refer:
If in these types of
situations you sense that you are not professionally equipped to give the help
needed by this student, you are encouraged to refer him or her to the Student
Counseling Service (SCS) in Cain Hall. In recommending that the student see a
counselor, it is important to choose the appropriate moment to make your
suggestion. Perhaps a second or third contact with the student may be required
before enough trust is established to permit you to suggest that the student see
a counselor to talk over his or her problems. It helps if you
have a positive view of counseling and can share your enthusiasm. Assuming the
student agrees to your suggestion, we suggest that you sit with the student
while s/he calls to make contact with the SCS or goes online to http://scs.tamu.edu to complete online registration.
We like students to make their own calls or register themselves because that
keeps them responsible for themselves, but sometimes, such as when a student is
very upset, it's best that you make the call. If you make the call, clearly
identify yourself as a professor, mentor, advisor, etc. to the SCS
Receptionist. S/he will ask you if it is a crisis. The designation of
crisis means that the student is in a life or death situation. You may also
say that the situation is urgent or that the student can wait for the next
available appointment which usually can be scheduled in ten or less days. Every
effort will be made to see the student as soon as it's possible to do so,
usually within a week of your call. If it is a crisis, the student will be
seen that day, or even immediately, if necessary. In that case, you might
wish to walk with the student to the SCS in Cain Hall.
If the student shows resistance to
seeing a counselor, you might want to suggest that he or she go to the Student
Health Service to see a physician. The physicians frequently refer students to
the counselors after appropriate medication or other health services are
provided. Reassure the student that his/her relationship with staff at either
the Student Counseling Service or the Student Health Service is a confidential
professional relationship within the limits permitted by the law, and
recognizes his or her adult status at 18 years of age. If the student refuses
any on-campus referral, then you may suggest that the individual seek help from
any of the psychologists, psychiatrists, or psychotherapists listed in the
Yellow Pages, or from his or her family physician.
HOW CAN YOU EFFECTIVELY REFER A STUDENT FOR FURTHER
HELP?
The following are basic thoughts
about the referral process that are essential for persons working in the
helping professions, and thus are also very important guidelines for anyone
concerned with helping other human beings.
WHEN to Refer
1. When a student presents a problem or a
request for information which is beyond your level of competency - refer the
student.
2. When you feel that personality differences
(which cannot be resolved) between you and the student will interfere with his
or her effective progress - refer the student.
3. If the problem is personal and you are
uncomfortable discussing it because you know the student too well on another
basis (friend, neighbor, grad assistant, etc.) - refer the student.
4. If the student is reluctant to discuss his or
her problem with you for some reason - refer the student.
5. If, after a period of time, you do not
believe your work and communication with a student has been effective - refer
the student.
WHO to Refer to
Knowledge of persons, offices, and
agencies that can be of service to you and the student is of primary
importance. You'll want to be sure to refer the student to the persons or
office that will best serve that student. In addition, referring a student to
the office appropriate to the problem demonstrates to the student that you have
his or her best interests at heart. It's a negative reflection on the person
making a referral to depend on someone else to see to it that "John
Jones" eventually gets where he could have been referred originally. We
all know how discouraged we get when we are passed along from office to office
without a real effort on anyone's part to determine where we can receive the
assistance we need. If you are not sure where to refer the student, find out
before you send the student. Feel free to call the SCS or the HelpLine for
resources or referral information.
HOW to Refer
1. Suggest in a caring, concerned, and
forthright manner that the student talk with a trained counselor. Some
information about the Student Counseling Service (SCS) that might allay fears
about coming here are that:
A. The service is free, (really, it's paid for
through the student services fee).
B. Confidentiality, to the limits provided by the
law, is respected. Information cannot be released without the student's
permission. Examples of exceptions include imminent harm or danger to the
student or another, child abuse, and abuse of the elderly.
C. No record of a student's use of the counseling
service is made on a transcript, in a job placement file, or in the University
computer system.
D. All counseling records are destroyed ten years
after the last contact with a student.
2. While it is ordinarily desirable to refer a
student to a specific person rather than to an office, we request that you
refer to the Department. This ensures that your student will be seen as
quickly as possible for the initial or crisis appointment. If you choose to
request a particular psychologist, we cannot guarantee that a student will be
seen by this person because many staff already have full caseloads—even at the
beginning of each semester. Thus, it is important for a crisis or urgent
appointment that the receptionist at the SCS be the person called or contacted
since she/he knows about counselor availability.
If you consider the situation to be a serious one warranting immediate
intervention, please be sure to remind the student to tell the receptionist
that this is a crisis situation. The SCS has crisis walk-in service (no
appointment needed) available during regular office hours. At your request the
receptionist will put your call through to the crisis counselor or an
administrator if you want to consult prior to sending/bringing the student to
the SCS.
3. In a crisis situation, give the student the
telephone number (979-845-4427) and location (Cain Hall, B-103) of the SCS, or,
better yet, give him/her the opportunity to use your phone to call about
setting up an appointment. Making his/her own call reinforces the student's
sense of responsibility for his/her own welfare which is always very
important. Note that initial, non-crisis appointments are scheduled online at http://scs.tamu.edu/.
In the case of a student who is extremely upset, it may be necessary
for you to call for him/her or, preferably, to walk with the student to Cain
Hall. In these more serious cases, your assistance will tend to give the upset
student a sense of security and caring.
4. If you have information about the student
that you feel is important to share with the counselor, there are pro's and
con's for sharing that information in front of the student. On one hand
sharing information in front of the student may give the student the feeling
that his or her particular problem is becoming known to everyone on campus. On
the other hand the student may feel reassured that s/he has heard what you are
saying, and that nothing is being kept from him/her. Use your best judgment
based on the situation and the person.
Whenever possible it’s always a good idea to get the student's
permission to relate information about him/her to the counselor.
5. When the student has returned from the
counseling session, don't "pump" him/her for information. Generally,
if you inquire as to whether or not the student has kept the appointment, the
student will volunteer whatever information is necessary to continue your
relationship.
6. The person making the referral should not
expect to be provided with the details of treatment, nor learn about the
confidences shared by the student with the counselor. This information is
protected by law. However, if the student gives written permission, you may
receive specific consultation or information on how best to interact with the
student.
This legal limitation should not impede your interactions with the
SCS. Always feel free to call us for consultation. Even if it is not possible
to share specific information regarding your student with you, a counselor may
be able to talk with you in general about how to help students in similar
situations. In addition, even if the counselor cannot share information with
you, the information you can provide the counselor is often very helpful, and
the information you give will be made available to the professional who will be
seeing the student.
7. Don't expect the immediate resolution of
particular symptoms or problems, nor give this expectation to the student.
Changing basic attitudes and feelings, or learning to handle everyday problems,
or improving academic performance takes time. It is a process that often moves
very slowly.
8. Finally, respect the individual. The
basic approach to all counseling and referral is one of fundamental respect for
the individual, and the belief that it is best for that person to work out
problems in his or her own way. You and the counselor participate in this
process by providing a variety of alternatives for assistance on the student's
own terms. Your role is to help the student become aware of and access the
help that is available. It’s the student’s choice to do so.
Consult:
If you have concerns about a student
or you’ve already tried to intervene and nothing seems to work, you may wish to
call the Student Counseling Service (979-845-4427) and ask to speak with
someone about the student in question. We can consult with you about how to
approach the student and offer further options to secure help for the student.
We can also share community resources for the student that might provide the
types of services that we are unable to provide.
To this point, we have described
the actions of a student whose behavior is troublesome, but still within the
bounds of tolerable behavior, whose cry for help is evident but s/he is not out
of control. In the case of a student whose behavior is more serious or bizarre
(intolerably disruptive behavior, unable to communicate clearly, conspicuously
suicidal, making homicidal threats, overdosed on drugs, etc.), please refer to
the section "WHAT DO YOU DO IN A CRISIS.”
WHAT DO YOU DO IN A CRISIS?
CRISIS SITUATIONS:
If a student is exhibiting behaviors that you feel indicate
an IMMEDIATE DANGER TO SELF OR SOMEONE ELSE, (unconscious, overdose or
attempted suicide, psychotic, threat of using a weapon, other immediate threat
to self or someone else),
CALL 9-911 IF ON-CAMPUS (911 IF YOU ARE OFF-CAMPUS) TO REQUEST
IMMEDIATE ASSISTANCE AT ANY TIME OF THE DAY OR NIGHT.
In many cases the student will be immediately transported by
police to a local emergency room for evaluation and stabilization. A student
sent to the emergency room will be evaluated by a physician and a local Mental
Health Mental Retardation employee and will not be released until they have determined
that the student is no longer an immediate danger to himself/herself or to
others.
URGENT SITUATIONS:
For situations that are NOT immediately life-threatening,
unlike those described above, send or walk the student to Cain Hall, B-103.
The Student Counseling Service (SCS) has a staff member scheduled to be
available to provide immediate consultation to you either in person or by phone
(979-845-4427) on weekdays during normal office hours (from 8 AM
to 5 PM).
After 5 PM weekdays and on weekends contact the Student Counseling Service
HelpLine at 979-845-2700. The HelpLine can assist you by providing
consultation or may page a psychologist from the SCS staff as needed and
appropriate.
During university holidays such as spring break, and the
breaks between semesters, you may call the HelpLine. A recording will instruct
you about how to access emergency psychological services. Usually the process
is to refer the student to the nearest hospital emergency room or call the
Mental Health/Mental Retardation Authority of Brazos Valley at 979-822-6467.
Whether an emergency occurs during regular SCS office
hours, after hours, or on weekends, if you are ever in doubt about calling for
assistance, call to consult with us.